Why is it that we can see our friends perfectly, but when it comes to ourselves no matter how hard we look, we never see ourselves clear? You know exactly what I am referring to. We are our own worse critics over and over again. We are the best of friends and at times unpaid therapists, but when it comes to building ourselves up, we work harder at self-destructing. It’s time to stop and see yourself for who you really are. You’re a strong human living each day the best way you know how with the information you have. Don’t sell yourself short. Trust yourself. Trust your journey. Everything is unfolding perfectly. This isn’t an easy task, but it’s more than doable and the payoff is priceless.
Look deep inside and it becomes clear – just as clear as when your friend tells you she’s failing at being a Mom and you wish you could reach through the phone to slap her because she’s absolutely killing it as a Mom and is raising a smart, beautiful daughter in the process. Seeing yourself clearly is knowing and accepting yourself for all that you are. Accept your flaws and vow to do better. Accept your accomplishments, feel proud and vow to continue. Just like you see and accept your friends for all they are, you need to see and accept yourself for all you are.
You see your bff as a perfect human winning at life and you’re always there as their biggest cheerleader and that’s exactly what friends are for but do it for yourself too. Look in the mirror and develop that intimate relationship with the reflection staring back at you. Get to know that person better than you know anyone and watch how clear the reflection becomes. It’s practically magic!
That reflection has stories (some ugly, some beautiful), but each of those have made you into the person you are today. Be kind and gentle with yourself. But above all, be truthful. Seeing and accepting yourself clearly is self-love. And just as you love those friends, love yourself. Self-love is not selfish. In fact, it is the most powerful gift you can give. So, the next time you look in that mirror and start to criticize or talk negative, reverse it and see yourself just as clearly as your friends see you and you see them; perfectly clear!
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