The Things We Say

“Mirror, mirror, on the wall who is the fairest of them all?”
~ Daphne Selfe
The mirror will always reflect the truth, but if you’re self-talk is right you won’t even need to ask the question. You’ll be the one telling the mirror who’s the fairest of them all – You are!

Oh’ the things we say to ourselves. Those thoughts on repeat. If they are positive, encouraging, beneficial, uplifting, etc., then kudos to you. You’ve mastered the secret to life. But for the rest of us, the things we tell ourselves are not always positive or to our benefit. And if we allow ourselves to follow these negative thought forms, that unpleasant thought soon manifests itself in our lives. And who do we have to blame? Ourselves!

Change the conversation you have with yourself and watch your circumstances change. It’s no different than a mirror. You can’t change the reflection without first changing yourself. Don’t look in the mirror and find a fault and allow that negative thought to carry itself through your day self-destructing as you go. Or in preparation for a big event, don’t play out the scenario in your mind giving it negative details or an undesirable outcome. Stop the negative thought the minute you have it. Replace it with something positive.

The most recommended way of changing self-talk is to start speaking to yourself using positive affirmations. An affirmation is a statement that affirms something to be true. Taking it a step further, a positive affirmation is a positive phrase that a person repeats to themselves describing something as factual or affirming the desired outcome.

Positive affirmations have the capability to change your outlook on life and bring positive change. But they must be implemented consistently and believed in without fail. These new positive statements you affirm to yourself are replacing the outdated, self-sabotaging thoughts you’ve had on repeat. Be patient with yourself and give it time. You’re challenging old patterns and that doesn’t happen overnight. You’ve likely had years and years of negativity streaming, but with enough dedication and self-awareness (and desire and willingness), your outside world will begin to reflect your new thoughts. The reflection begins changing.

Positive self-talk helps us create the reality we want. You’re already creating your reality every second of every day (whether you want to believe it or not – you are), but now you’re becoming self-aware enough to attract the things, people, and scenarios you desire using your self-talk. The more you speak it (aloud or silently), the more you believe it. You’re reprogramming your subconscious mind.

The biggest hinderance to our self-talk is using the words, “I Can’t.” Please don’t ever speak these – because You Can! Everything and anything is possible. Each moment brings new possibilities, but if you’re constantly projecting negative self-talk, you’re killing each moment before it can ever present itself to you.

Take anything you want to work on and flip the script. Instead of saying, “I’m always tired and life is hard” replace it with, “I’m an energic person ready to tackle everything life brings my way.” The two words, I AM, are powerful. But you must believe them. At first it may seem forced or feel like you are lying to yourself. And maybe you are. But eventually, you’ll start believing the new script. And that’s when your outside circumstances will start shifting to match the things you’re saying to yourself.

Below are a few one-line positive affirmations that can easily be implemented into your life to get you started.

• No matter how difficult it is. I can do it.
• I am smart.
• I am not perfect and that’s ok.
• I like me – I love me.
• I am confident.
• I am strong.
• I am getting better and better each day.
• I deserve to be happy.
• Today is going to be a great day.
• All is well.

It’s the things we say to ourselves that matter the most. It’s our self-talk that can keep us stuck or propel us forward. Change your thoughts – Change your life!